Sunday, March 07, 2010
Gay: The Only Way?
As one who has been attracted to males as early as the age of five, I think people are predisposed to their sexuality at birth. Early detection didn't offer me many years to stew upon the idea and then one day wake with an epiphany: I think I'm going to try dick today. I just went that way like a compass points north (uh hum).
However is being gay really the only way? While I wouldn't want it any other way, the word want is important here. While I'll believe my fellow gay brethren and I were born with the homosexual "agenda" (ha ha), there's something to say about the power of self-persuasion, one's environment. I say "self" because ultimately it comes down to you and what you want and want bad enough.
The fact of the matter is that sexuality is complex. There's no definitive answer as to what makes someone gay or straight. While one could be born with a sexual direction, their environment can play an important role. If I were predisposed to be gay but never acted upon it and went the way of a heterosexual then would I really be gay? I guess it's in how you define gay. Acting on it? Thinking it? Suppressing it?
Some gay individuals that really want to can, as some religious zealots call, "convert" to heterosexuality just as I believe anyone, if they put their mind to something like getting a different job, can. I believe "turning straight" is possible. Don't get me wrong; I don't think it's what gay people should do but if they really want to, go for it.
Saying gays have the ability to turn straight may sound like something from a reparative therapy nut or religious zealot, certainly odd coming from a healthy, and normal as normal can be (I guess) gay person. Yet I strongly believe in will power. If one wants to they can do whatever they put their mind to.
If I really, really wanted to, or was forced to, I could certainly suppress my desire for chocolate ice cream, and never have it again. But why bother? I like it. It's not a problem. My affair with the cocoa bean is not hurting anyone. Neither is my being gay.