I was not raised in an overly religious household. While I believe in God, I don't follow the Church. Sometimes this lack of understanding the rituals, leaves me at a loss knowing what to do in certain situations. For instance at a wake, watching others as they kneel before a casket, they bless themselves and appear to recite some memorized prayer -- I don't do that.
For me what feels right is to speak from my heart. Yesterday as I knelt before my work colleague's deceased body, I clasped my hands in commune and just spoke to him:
Hey Buddy -- Just wanted to let you know that I really appreciated you, enjoyed your company. You always made things fun. You were a stand up guy. You'll be missed. Take care my friend.
It was not profound. It certainly wasn't something sanctioned by the Church but for me it felt right. Simple.
What do you say?